Intro: What Is "In Their Shoes"?
Recently, I was thinking on something that I'd been noticing in our increasingly individualistic society, people never really talk to each other anymore. Sure, you may talk to your neighbors sometimes, and of course your friends and family, but we tend to simply ignore those we pass by during our regular day-to-day schedules. I was trying to think of a way that I could improve my ability to interact with strangers I come in contact with, and that's when I had the idea for this blog series."In Their Shoes" is based around getting into conversations with strangers, and helping to share stories that might not otherwise get told. My hope is that through this series it will: 1.) Cause me to resist the temptation to ignore those around me, and 2.) Help inspire others towards greater connectivity with people in their own communities.
I hope you enjoy reading these stories!
D's Shoes
I met "D" at a local coffee shop one morning while ordering up my usual iced mocha. When I first sat across from him, he had his headphones in, and was lightly tapping his feet to some unknown beat. We started talking shortly after, and he said he was willing to share his story with me.
Who are you?
You can call me "D". I'm 47 years old, and I'm a Media-Advertising Multidisciplinary-Consultant.
Haha, so what does that mean?
Basically, it means I help companies organize and produce the identity they promote through their advertising and online presence. I've also been a director, and writer for 20 years.
Where do you see yourself in another 20 years?
My desire is that I'll always be creative. I never want to stop seeing myself create new things. To me, that's what it's all about. I'd love to have a balanced life, and I think that's the key to being emotionally fulfilled. I also hope to be known not just as a successful African-American creator, but as a great creator period.
Many people in my generation might look at your career and go, "How did he do it? How did he get there?"
Honestly, it just came from hard work. I didn't even major in advertising, or media. I studied art and psychology.haha. After college I hopped in with an internship at a media company,and I just started absorbing and learning. That's what you have to do. You have to follow your heart to what makes you happy, and then just work at it. I love what I do, it never feels like a chore.
So, what do you think is the meaning of life?
For me, it's about teaching and learning. But, maybe in the opposite order. It's about taking in all this wisdom in life,and sharing it with others who are seeking the same things. The beautiful thing about that is, there is no end to this cycle. But, I can't make that decision for other people. I can't make them see things the way I see things. It's just not worth the effort. It's either natural, or it's not.
What do you think about God?
That's an interesting question. Well, I was raised in a Christian home, but today I view religion similar to politics. In today's society you're forced to make a choice. If you don't fit in, people don't know what to do with you. You're pressured to choose a side. Societal pressure is simply ridiculous. That's not what i'm here for. I'm not here to tell anyone what to do. I'm here just to contribute. I'm here to accept as much as possible. I don't believe there is one God in the way that most people think. Maybe there was some sort of creator or creators, and maybe that's where the feeling of purpose came from. I'm not here to reject. Nobody knows, and nobody get's to decide.
It was great getting to talk with D, and hear about his life. Even though I didn't agree with everything he said, it was nice to be able to share a moment of humanity between strangers. I'll be praying God will change his mind, and that we'll get to talk again sometime in the future.












